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Christmas Greetings and A Happy New Year


Christmas Greetings and a Happy New Year
Dinesh K Kapila
Christmas Greetings and A Happy New Year. Stay Blessed and Happy. Enjoy the warmth of your families and the spirit of a deep happiness which it triggers. Forget the petty differences and quarrels and reach out.
As always, and as someone asked me, why am I wishing greetings on Christmas. Yes, as a Hindu by faith, culture and inclination, this is a relevant query, if one can say so. It’s not an objection per se, but more philosophical in intent. Well, to actually think it over, the closest I feel with my background and faith is Sikhism and then of course Jainism and Buddhism.  But then there are certain factors, firstly the Christian Branch of my family. That is of course one very important consideration. Add to it having studied in Convent Schools, this is only natural. Then Dad was in the Army, it’s a done thing to celebrate all festivals there, as also where I have worked all my life, even if the predominant numbers are from another faith.
Lastly and equally important, why should I not wish and extend greetings on this day. It’s my right and wish, not that anyone is actually objecting, let me clarify, but I am simply stating it. Any query being deemed superfluous. It’s a nice festive day and one can remember one’s own faith and extend greetings to one and all. Then we Punjabis are quite adept at adopting varied customs and cultures. And feel happy and cheerful about it.
But, and that is a big But, for me, it’s also a part of the overall festival season extending from around Janamashthami and extending through Deepavali to Guru Nanak’s Birthday and then ending with Christmas. In some regions it would include Eid too. One can extend it to New Year too, if one is so inclined. The country, or rather, the part of the vast country where I live and belong to, remains infused with this festive spirit all through these months. And the markets keep the spirit going with sales and celebrations. It sort of creates a warm happy feeling. Contrary to dire predictions and debates, the average citizens are quietly going about their work and progressing and seek to enjoy life on such occasions.
To exchange greetings and extend festive wishes is uplifting and a feel good factor. It lifts your own spirits and hopes and aspirations. And it rekindles the desire and drive to be ethical and conform to a perception of living a good person’s life.  That is good for society too and for all classes. I still remember my son once wished a parking attendant Merry Christmas and A Happy New Year and the young attendant got emotional and said that my son was the only person to have wished him or to have returned his greetings on a biting cold sunless day. I drew a deep insight from this, about human nature and the need to always reach out and to try and trigger the good side of us humans. This is very important. It’s easy to be cynical and negative about human nature in this world and justifiably so, but then life cannot be lived as a cynical person, Be on guard and don’t be fooled but equally tap the good side too. I as always subscribe to the middle path for making one’s way through the myriad pathways of life.
I know I am drifting off, but similarly, I do listen to the summary of scriptures. Not all and yes a summary, and honestly because the wife listens, by default I do too. God Channel, Guru, Aastha, PTC etc I listen to many. Jains, Hindus, Christians, some confused souls running programmes without knowing what they are peddling, it’s all rather confusing. But what stands out normally and is common across all channels and faiths is the need to lead a good clean life, the need to prepare for the next life or after life, the essence is actually the same. I find it quite clear that the need to prepare to face the consequences after passing through this stage of life, to put it straight, for the post death stage,  is quite common. So one can buy a sort of insurance by being a good person in this life and following the precepts and teachings of one’s faith.
But and very important, nobody and absolutely, nobody has the right to deem his or her faith or school of faith above any other faith. This has to be implicitly and explicitly accepted and understood. Be loyal to one’s own without impinging on the other’s right to his or her faith. Do not comment or disparage the concepts and rituals of another faith. We must realise that certain myths and mystical episodes are a given in every religion and thus just accept the same in your own and every faith and lead a good clean life. This is important to maintain social harmony too.
Now a friend pointed out that he did not believe in the after life or the next life or any version of a place for sinners or the good guys. If you are so inclined, why did you even read this till now. Seriously, even if an atheist, I would maintain we need to exchange greetings and retain the warm feelings,  in fact we must a lead a good life for making our own due contribution to the building of a better world. To stay positive, to have a faith in our uniqueness as human beings and to engage in the quest for a better world, we do need a faith in a Higher Power. If not by a faith or religion, then by believing in the power of good deeds, a good character and by living by a code of ethics.  
I would add here, a good citizen is also being inherent in being an ethical person and leading a good life. The micro definitions need not be demanded or debated, but just be a good citizen too.
Christmas, well to me, as I read in the stories and magazines, it’s the same as the primary religious festival of any major faith, families getting together, praying together, reiterating their faith in themselves and their God, thanking the One Above for His Blessings and atleast on this day putting their stresses and pains aside for a get together. It gives hope and mental sustenance to many and lets them build a resolve to face up to the uncertain future. It even enables families and friends to build bridges and address vital gaps in many divided families or friendships. The Happy Ones are privileged to renew their faith and to realise their being so blessed on this occasion. It renews  spiritually and mentally for the future. As I said, at it’s essence this is the core of all major religious festivals.
2019 is just around this weekend. A year gone, a year upon us, for the romantic, a tremendous day, for the rational, just the turning over of a page. But this again is a renewal of faith. Now across faiths, this is accepted as a common element, it’s logical. It enables planning and a certain logical order. We can set aside all regrets and sadness on the 31st and hope and pray for a better year. We can state that My Almighty, as per your faith, you Blessed me through this year, I seek and pray for your continued blessings next year too. Bless me with the strength to face up to the negative events and to enjoy and stay happy while basking in positivity on the good days.    
So enjoy, stay happy, wish your near and dear the best in life, pray for a better future and stay positive minded.  Christmas Greetings and a Happy New Year.  
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