DK Kapila The Oracle

 The Mother in Law and the Pious Lady Syndrome in India Dinesh K Kapila While not generalising, I can safely say that many daughters in law in India seek to live separately even if it costs heavily on rent rather than stay with the in laws. The father in laws and the husbands don’t actually count, they are so busy in working or idling or leading a peaceful retired life or even sitting at religious gatherings, they don’t even realise the daily poisonous drama just about occurring on a daily basis in front of their eyes. The normal jostling for space and a say in affairs are minor issues, but it is the more pronounced ones which are often never discussed but are a reality. Not that the daughters in law are all the epitome of nature’s bountiful kindness, some go on the attack right from the beginning, the threat perception being neutralised, even if it was never there .or straight away insist on moving out.   And the victimhood syndrome, one rather obnoxious specimen died, ...

  Speaking in Public or at Meetings etc . Tips and suggestions etc .  By Dinesh K Kapila A couple of young professionals asked my views on this. Social media contacts. Whatever I could convey I have tried to state here. Now this is an issue which causes anxiety and even physical distress to quite a few people. This can literally be a handicap in any profession as most organisations require an individual to make presentations, address groups, answer questions and give clarifications, represent the institution or organisation at external meetings etc. There are individuals who are excellent in writing and analysis, crisp, cogent, with an excellent command of the subject and with logic. However if asked to make a presentation or to present it as a speech, they tend to falter or to speak in a manner which does not convey the essence and the well thought out points. I know of certain officers who would rather have someone else present on their behalf, which takes away the credi...